Saturday, February 26, 2011

Ways to Get Back at Your Ex

Relationships can be very unpredictable. That is what makes them so exciting at times. Unfortunately, one of the unpredictable aspects of a relationship is how they can end. The ending of a relationship is an emotionally charged time where feelings can easily be hurt. If your relationship just ended, you may be upset and be looking for ways to get back at your ex. But you should ask yourself if harboring these ill feelings is really the best thing for you. Fortunately, there are some highly effective ways to get back at your ex that are not destructive and can even be therapeutic. The tips below are sure ways to get back at your ex.

1. Get out and have a good time. Hang out with your old friends or make new ones. Take up some new hobbies to occupy your time and develop new skills. Your ex will begin to doubt the decision to break up with you if he/she sees you out having fun all the time.

2. Break off communication with your ex. This may be counterintuative since it is what your ex seems to want, but your ex will actually have mixed feelings about it. Since you shared good time together once, your ex will miss you when you break off contact. There will be a sense of loss without your presence.

3. Be nice to your ex. Do not be demanding when talking about clearing things out and stuff like that. This will demonstrate a level of sympathy and understanding that is unexpected and cause your ex to wonder whether it was a mistake to let you go.

4. Be strong and confident. No matter what you are feeling, do not act needy, clingy, or desperate. Doing so will confirm your ex's decision and provide comfort that the right decision was made. But if you continue to be strong and self assured, your ex will notice and question the decision to leave.

5. Be yourself. You had a life before you met your ex. You can have a great life without your ex. When your ex sees you being yourself, it will bring back memories of how things were. This will remind your ex of how things were when you first met and cause doubt that the relationship could not be saved.

Even though the above tips are great ways to get back at your ex, they are also the best ways of getting your ex back. If you follow these steps above, your ex will likely end up wanting to get back together again. You will then have to decide if you want to forgive your ex or get back at your ex. Now how great would that be?

Sunday, February 13, 2011

Couples Getting Back Together - How To Get Your Ex Back

If you are going through a break up and want to know how to get your ex back, this article should help.  The first thing you should do is give your ex some space.  I know this is difficult, but you have to do this in order to have any chance at getting back together.  You both need time to reflect and evaluate what you need in a relationship.  Resist the urge to call or visit your ex.  Do not begin dating every girl/guy in town.  Do not beg to be taken back.  These actions will only push your ex away.

Instead, take this time to think about the things that first attracted your ex to you.  What is it that has changed?  Can you attribute the change to something transitional that is going on in your life, such as a project at work or family situation?  If so, you may be able to take steps to get past these issues and repair your relationship.  But in order to do this, you need to stay on speaking terms with your ex.  A good way to do this is to send a short letter in the mail saying that you understand the decision and respect his/her feelings, and that you are taking some time to think about what went wrong so you can learn from it.  Also tell your ex that you hope to someday be friends.

Then after some time has passed, you can slowly initiate contact again.  Make sure to keep things positive.  Behave the way you did when you first met.  Be spontaneous and fun.  When something comes up in conversation that brings up good memories, you should share those thoughts to remind your ex of your good times together.  Talk about some of the things in your life that caused the relationship to change and how they have been resolved (hopefully).  This will show your ex that you have taken steps to remove the barriers that hurt the relationship in the first place.  This will open the door to getting back together again.  You don't need to mention getting back together.  Chances are, when your ex is ready, he/she will bring it up.  Continue to nurture this new relationship with your ex and you will be on your way to getting your ex back.

Although most relationships can be saved, many breakups become permanent because people don't know the right steps to take to repair a relationship. This is a shame because there are resources out there that can help. To get some more help getting your ex back, take a look at this Couples Getting Back Together video below. It is a great resource that has more techniques for getting your ex back:


Saturday, February 12, 2011

How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend To Want You Back

If your girlfriend recently broke up with you, you are probably wondering how to get your ex girlfriend to want you back. You may be thinking about all the things you could have done differently in the relationship. But this is often a pointless exercise because many times you can never really tell the true reason for the break up. Women can be very emotional and don't always know themselves what is making them feel unsatisfied in the relationship. So if the reason for the break up is not obvious to you, it is probably best that you don't waste a lot of energy and grief dwelling on it.

This article will show you how to get your ex girlfriend to want you back. The first thing you should do is forget about her for a while and redirect your energy to other things. Spend some time working on a hobby, networking, or meeting new people. This will be difficult to do at first, but it is a critical step to get your ex girlfriend to want you back. Taking this time away from the relationship will also clear your mind and give you a much better idea for how you want to proceed with you ex girlfriend. Do you still want to get back together with her? Or would you prefer to just move on?

If you still want to get back together, you should casually make contact with her to assess how she might feel about it. Make sure you don't get too emotional and beg her to take you back. You should also take care not to apologize for things that were not your fault. Actions like this will not help your case. It will just make you look pathetic and unattractive. It's been a while since she has seen you, so she will likely be missing you too. If you show her that you can be like the person she originally fell in love with, she'll begin to wonder why she broke up with you. Let her know that you are managing fine without her. As you're talking to her, you should be able to get a sense of whether she is receptive to the idea of getting back together again. If she is receptive, you are in good shape and can continue to work on getting her to want you back. Just remember to take things slow and don't over analyze everything. If you've made it this far, you are well on your way to getting your ex girlfriend back.

Getting a girlfriend back after a breakup can be tricky. Many of the things you will instinctively want to do will be wrong. If you follow the advice in this article, you will have a great start on getting your girlfriend back. For more proven techniques that you can use, visit: How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend To Want You Back. I wish you success and will be rooting for you.