Ways to Get Back at Your Ex

Relationships can be very unpredictable. That is what makes them so exciting at times. Unfortunately, one of the unpredictable aspects of a relationship is how they can end. The ending of a relationship is an emotionally charged time where feelings can easily be hurt. If your relationship just ended, you may be upset and be looking for ways to get back at your ex. But you should ask yourself if harboring these ill feelings is really the best thing for you. Fortunately, there are some highly effective ways to get back at your ex that are not destructive and can even be therapeutic. The tips below are sure ways to get back at your ex.

1. Get out and have a good time. Hang out with your old friends or make new ones. Take up some new hobbies to occupy your time and develop new skills. Your ex will begin to doubt the decision to break up with you if he/she sees you out having fun all the time.

2. Break off communication with your ex. This may be counterintuative since it is what your ex seems to want, but your ex will actually have mixed feelings about it. Since you shared good time together once, your ex will miss you when you break off contact. There will be a sense of loss without your presence.

3. Be nice to your ex. Do not be demanding when talking about clearing things out and stuff like that. This will demonstrate a level of sympathy and understanding that is unexpected and cause your ex to wonder whether it was a mistake to let you go.

4. Be strong and confident. No matter what you are feeling, do not act needy, clingy, or desperate. Doing so will confirm your ex's decision and provide comfort that the right decision was made. But if you continue to be strong and self assured, your ex will notice and question the decision to leave.

5. Be yourself. You had a life before you met your ex. You can have a great life without your ex. When your ex sees you being yourself, it will bring back memories of how things were. This will remind your ex of how things were when you first met and cause doubt that the relationship could not be saved.

Even though the above tips are great ways to get back at your ex, they are also the best ways of getting your ex back. If you follow these steps above, your ex will likely end up wanting to get back together again. You will then have to decide if you want to forgive your ex or get back at your ex. Now how great would that be?